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No Excuse Is Good Enough; Outstanding Achievers Raised By Single Parents.

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It's Not Just Your Background, It's Who You Choose To Be;

It’s Not Just Your Background, It’s Who You Choose To Be;

While this post is in no way an attempt at encouraging single parenting, it none the less make bold to  state the obvious that been raised by a single parent does not necessarily put one at a disadvantage, and it is not a reason not to be at your best.

While the notion of growing up in a happy home with two parents and a happy household is ideal, it is unfortunately not a reality for everyone.

But guess what? Even the most famous, most successful and most renowned achievers, leaders and celebrities are sometimes products of a single family home either by choice, by circumstances or even by death.

The fact that we know them as outstanding in their chosen careers and spheres of contact is a confirmation that they turned out just fine and so our circumstances do not necessarily have to limit us.

This is most importantly a reminder to single parents that no matter what happens, it is your responsibility to make sure your children be the best they can be.

This is also a call to as many as have been deluded into believing that brutally ending the life of an innocent infant after delivery is a healthier option than pressing through the odds and raising your child to be the person s/he is born to be.

Am I saying they are absolutely no challenges having to grow up or raise children in a single parent situation? No I am not, and trust me; there will be, on both parties (parent & child) for that matter.

Life can throw lemons at you but it is you who decides whether to complain about the unpleasant taste of the lemons or make he most of your situation and turn the lemons into lemonade.

Is it a perfect thing to be raise by a single parent? No it’s not. (There are no perfect situations in life in anycase.)

But is it also proper or a perfect thing to be raised in an abusive home and probably grow up with gruesome memories that will most likely distort your entire life or even turn you into a monster as well? I think “no” too.

Either which way, when you find yourself there especially as a parent, it is your responsibility to accept your reality and make your situation work for you.

If you ever doubt that, let these outstanding achievers in life be a constant reminder that having to parent your child alone or even been raised by a single parent is not enough reasons to limit yourself.

And you should never put your children at a disadvantage by raising them with the mentality that there is something not right about their been raised in a single parent setting.

Your strength is innate, and whether there is a man or woman beside you or not, you have been gifted to be the best you can be and effect positive change.

The realization of the fact that your strength is innate is actually your staying power that will most likely also make a man stick and be at your service.

J.K Rowling

J.K Rowling is the author of the Harry potter series and She is one of the most famous authors in the whole world.

Barrack Obama

Born on August 4, 1961, Presidential candidate Barack Obama II is the 44th and first African American President of The United States of America. He’s also proof single moms are raising leaders! His late parents Ann Dunham and Barack Obama, Sr. divorced when he was only two. When he ran for president in 2007, he spoke often about being brought up by his single mother and maternal grandparents. Obama’s biological father died in a car crash in 1982 after visiting the future President only once. In his words, “My mother was the one constant in my life. When I think about my mom raising me alone when she was 20, and working and paying the bills, and, you know, trying to pursue your own dreams, I think that is a feat that is unmatched,” Obama said that about his mom.

Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor

She was 9 when it happened. She says she was at school, in the school yard at recess, standing by the fence, when a thought passed through her “like the barest shadow of a mood.” All of a sudden, and for no clear reason, she found herself thinking of her “Papi,” her father, who had been drunk, self-destructive and difficult for as long as she could remember.

It turns out, Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor found out later, that as she was having that thought, her Papi, lying in a nearby Bronx hospital, was dying. He died that same afternoon. “Deep down,” she wrote in her autobiography saying “I’d known for awhile that this is where Papi was heading.” Drink killed him, and perhaps, the hint of him in her head was his “saying goodbye.” When she got home, she says she “ran down the hall and threw myself on the bed. I was sobbing, pounding my fists, when [her aunt] entered the room. ‘Sonia, you have to be a big girl now. You have to be strong … ‘ ” For her, that was a turning point. Without a father, with a mother numb from grief, she writes, “the only way I’d survive was to do it myself.”

Mary J. Blige

When music sensation Mary J. Blige was barely 4 years old, her father left her family. Blige’s mother moved her around the country, including to housing projects in New York. Blige reportedly began to love music when she listened to her mother’s collection of ’70s music.

Sean Combs

The rapper once known as “Puff Daddy” was born in a public housing project to Janice Combs, a teacher, and Melvin Earl Combs, a drug dealer. Melvin was shot in his car when Sean was still an infant, an event the rapper recently opened up about in an interview.

Sean was raised solely by his mother.

Angelina Jolie

Perhaps actress Jolie was so eager to be a mother herself because she had a great role model! “Her  parents split when Jolie was a baby, and for many years she didn’t talk to her dad. Jolie’s mother was model.  After they split, Jolie’s mom moved her and her siblings from California to New York and raised her kids by herself.

Eddie Murphy

Comedian and actor Murphy lost his father at a very young age: He was 8 when his police officer father was shot by a girlfriend.  Murphy’s widowed mother, Lillian Murphy, later remarried but spent several years raising Eddie Murphy and his brother by herself.

I tend not to tilt completely to the side of the woman because there are a few cases that men are actually the victims.

Apolo Aton Ohno

Having said so much about single Moms, here’s one for the Dads;

Well,  Apolo Aton Ohno, the American Short Track Speed Skating competitor who has won a total of eight Olympic medals—two gold! Has it differently.

Born on May 22, 1982, his mom, Jerrie Lee split when he was an infant (leaving Apolo’s dad Yuki Ohno Stoked).

Except for a few photographs, the Olympian has never even seen, let alone met his mother.

According to his father, “Fatherhood was a mystery. I was incompetent. I didn’t think I could pull this thing off,” He said this when he won full custody of his son.

He worked 12-hour shifts in a hair salon to support the one day Olympian.

This is what Apolo has to say about his Dad;

“Dad did a great job; He’s really been the backbone of my support group. He knows when I’m up and when I’m down.

This is a typical case of a single Dad going a great job.

So when circumstances throw you in there, just remember that you have been innately empowered to succeed and you can make the most of every situation.

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